#154 – Real Talk about Relationships: Marriage with Ashlee and Clayton Hurst

#154 – Real Talk about Relationships: Marriage with Ashlee and Clayton Hurst

It’s so easy to get swept away in the details of a wedding day and forget to prepare for the lifelong marriage that follows. On today’s podcast, Clayton and Ashlee Hurst share their marriage story and talk honestly about how, after five years of marriage, they found themselves in a valley of terrible communication, unforgiveness, and selfishness.

The Hursts talk about a difficult question that got them out of their valley: “Are we willing to do whatever it takes to have the marriage we’ve always hoped and dreamed of?” It took time to get to a better place relationally, but each of them started by taking small steps. They have learned to say, “We’re not where we want to be, but we’re not where we used to be.” Over the years, they’ve become better students of marriage – reading books and getting to know other couples who are willing to share their stories too.

Do you feel like you are constantly fighting with your spouse? Do you feel like your marriage isn’t where you want it to be? I hope this podcast challenges you and your spouse to fight for each other instead of against each other. I hope you find practical tools to make moving forward a reality in your own life. And of course we talk about sex.  You can’t talk about marriage without talking about sex and what role it plays.

Listen to this encouraging episode about marriage and pick up a copy of Clayton and Ashlee’s book Hope for your Marriage. Link is below under resources!

Highlight from Today’s Episode:

  • How to prepare for your wedding AND the marriage that follows.
  • What it takes to get out of a valley in marriage.
  • Three questions you can ask that will help you reorient your mind and heart toward your spouse.
  • What to do if your spouse isn’t willing to do the work.
  • The importance of communication in a marriage

Resources From Today’s Show 

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Let’s Talk!

After you’ve listened to the podcast, I’d love to continue the conversation. Be sure and leave a comment!

  1. Do you speak life over your marriage?  What can you do today to start doing this?
  2. Have you been fighting for or against your marriage?  How were you encouraged to fight differently after listening to today’s podcast?
  3. Do you have a marriage story that would encourage someone else?  Have you seen victory in your marriage after a difficult season? Share your story here! There are women who need to hear about how you have made it through!

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How to Listen to The Podcast

If you’re new to podcasts, think of them like little radio shows that you can listen to at your convenience. They are perfect to listen to and learn from as you workout, fold laundry, wash dishes or conquer the world.

1. Listen right here on the blog. Click the little play button at the beginning of this post.

2. Listen on iTunes or Stitcher or Google Play! – Be sure and subscribe so you don’t miss an episode! Also, if you would be so kind as to leave a rating on iTunes and/or write a 2-3 sentence review there or on Stitcher?  Your commentary or rating helps make the podcast more “findable” by others who might not know it exists!

3. Share today’s show –   Email the link to a friend or share on social media. Just click on the sharing buttons at the bottom of this post!

You have been so great to join me on the journey here on the blog, I hope you jump right in and do the same on the podcast!

By |2018-02-05T08:50:27+00:00February 5th, 2018|Faith, Family, Podcast|9 Comments
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  1. Tamara Murphy February 5, 2018 at 10:30 am - Reply

    My ears are in LOVE! Learned sooooooooo much! Wow! God bless this couple for being so open and honest with no shame.. We are healed by the blood of the lamb and the word of their testimony. That’s so beautiful to hear the couple speak of past hurt but have come out of it or even still dealing with it but laying it at Jesus’ feet. Also hearing the husband cover his wife about the specific topic that she was still a little emotional about.. Def a Podcast that I will listen to and encourage my friends and husband to hear as well! and thx Crystal for always asking the difficult questions. Even about sex, we all needed to hear that. You ROCK! Wish I lived in Dallas, but since I don’t the podcast makes me feel like I’m right there!

    -Mrs. Murphy 🙂

    • Chrystal Hurst February 5, 2018 at 10:30 am - Reply

      Thanks for listening!!!!

  2. Norah February 9, 2018 at 12:46 pm - Reply

    I am not married but I enjoyed listening to this conversation. Thank You

    • Chrystal Hurst February 10, 2018 at 11:43 am - Reply

      Glad you listened!

  3. Kaye February 10, 2018 at 7:20 am - Reply

    So many transforming LOVE notes, for all relationships. Love their vulnerability and transparency.
    Everyone loving relationship requires; effective communication, forgiveness, an understanding of our differences, and, laying down pride. Look forward to staying in touch with Chrystal’s Chronicles. #lovebytheheart

  4. Suzanne February 11, 2018 at 4:06 pm - Reply

    Chrystal, oh how I needed this today. My husband confessed to me today that he spoke to another couple in my church negatively about m. Right now I am terribly hurt. I told him I was very hurt by what he said. I am really struggling right now to forgive him. We have been arguing with each other lately and I want to fight for him and not against him. I tend to do what my mother did to my father all his life and I hate that part of me. Please pray that I can get this under control so my I can save my marriage. Thanks so much for this piodcast.

  5. Stephanie Mayo February 12, 2018 at 5:36 pm - Reply

    Awesome podcast! My husband and I both listened and plan to purchase the book, “Hope for your marriage.” I must say the point stated, “don’t fight with each other, but fight for one another” was absolutely powerful. I wept because for so long I had suffered from rejection; being a young girl without a father and grandfather; then, a step father who physically abused me. So, when I met my husband (aka high school sweetheart), totally opposite of what I had experienced, I didn’t know how to accept his love; his kisses and hugs but rejection was the norm. But thanks be to my Lord God that I can accept the love my Kingdom Man has for me daily!!!! Yes, we are on the same team.

    Thank you so much and praying blessings upon you and your marriage and your powerful ministry!!

    • Chrystal Hurst February 14, 2018 at 5:02 am - Reply

      What a great testimony Stephanie! So glad this episode was an encouragement to you!

  6. Nia February 19, 2018 at 12:00 pm - Reply

    This was awesome! Thank you for sharing this story! I can relate to Ashlee. I felt like so many resources said “No no no…to sex” as it should. But I couldn’t find anything that said there is hope and redemption- even when you messed up and went against God’s guidelines for sex. I was also very young. This podcast was very encouraging. I am now newly married and I pray for healing that I may enjoy sex as God intented.

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