Have you ever felt like you were too much or not enough? Are you struggling to have difficult conversations with people with opposing views? How do you define kindness? What does kindness look like in difficult conversations?
Ashlee Eiland and I have a deep conversation about her journey in accepting her identity and promoting kindness in our communities. Ashlee is a wife, mother, coach, and teacher of the gospel who wants to equip people to build bridges back to each other and back to God.
One of the ways Ashlee believes we can do this is through kindness. In her upcoming book, Human (kind), Ashlee frames her view of kindness through her experiences in childhood and adulthood. The importance of kindness is a focus of her story as a black woman navigating white and black spaces and struggling with identity in feeling not enough in some spaces and too much in others. Ashlee’s goal is to help all people to get close to one another and be kind even as they navigate difficult conversations.
We can look at our world today, and find people on all media channels being mean and making hateful comments to each other. “Being kind” has become overrated yet needed more than ever. But choosing kindness is not easy and requires us to get “proximate” to people. Proximate, meaning eye-to-eye, which may involve us putting down our devices and laying down our judgment. Embracing kindness involves our willingness to have hard conversations by asking questions and listening to the other person’s story.
Now more than ever before, we need to be kind to ourselves and to each other. We must learn the art of engaging with people that have experiences and ideas different than our own. Then we must allow kindness to help us know and accept who God has created us to be. Ashlee Eiland both in our conversation and through her book, Human (kind), teaches us that through our own story we can pursue kindness with each other.
Highlights from Today’s Episode:
- Ashlee’s Eiland new book “Human (kind)”
- Why kindness matters in our communities and church
- How to get proximate to people
- Having kind conversations around difference
- Finding and creating meaningful relationships
- Adapting to new spaces and environments
Resources from today’s show
- Want to connect with Ashlee? Follow her on Twitter or on her website.
- Grab a copy of Ashlee’s book Human (kind)
- Ashlee also enjoys coaching women speakers. Find out more about her involvement with Women Speakers Collective.
- Catch up on a couple of Coffee with Chrystal episodes! Watch my chat with my dad, Dr. Tony Evans, or the one with my dear friend, Jan Greenwood.
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- “Kindness is underrated and needed more than ever.” ~Ashlee Eiland
- “It’s really hard to tear at the fabric of a person’s humanity when you are looking at them in the eye.” ~Ashlee Eiland
- “Be proximate with people.” ~Ashlee Eiland
- “Listening is not a surrender, it is a sacrifice.” ~Ashlee Eiland
- There are some things that we can do that are daily maintenance and approachable and others that are drastic measures. ~Ashlee Eiland
- “ There is not one prescriptive way to approach change and transformation.” ~Ashlee Eiland
- “I will go where I am welcomed and I will love those who allow me to love them.” ~Ashlee Eiland
Other Stuff to Check Out
- Did you catch my last episode with Sara Hagerty? Listen here.
- Need to encourage your soul? Try listening to the playlist I put together for my mom, Lady Lois’ Worship
- Interested in supporting the content I create and enjoying bonus content? Learn about joining my Inner Circle!
- My book, Be sure and also check out my other books She’s Still There,
- 28 Days of Prayer, Show Up For Your Life, Kingdom Woman!
After you’ve listened to the podcast, I’d love to continue the conversation. Be sure and leave a comment!
- How can you be intentional about establishing meaningful relationships?
- In what areas of your life are you still searching for belonging?
- What has kindness looked like for you?
- What are ways that you can engage with people and communities different from your own?
- In reflecting on your own story, how have your experiences shaped how you view the world?
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