When You Are Tired of Being “Mom”

When You Are Tired of Being “Mom”

If you are so tired that you can’t possibly read another blog post, be sure to at least scroll to the end of today’s post to watch the video.  You will smile.

When You Are Tired of Being a Mom

At this very moment, I can honestly say. I’m exhausted.

My brain hurts. Literally.

I currently have one in kindergarten, planning for one to graduate from high school, and fielding calls from yet another who is getting married in a few months.

And that description doesn’t even include the one on their way into junior high and the other who is balancing their 3rd graduate education with speech therapy appointments.

And did I tell you I homeschool?

My brain hurts.

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In less than a month, Mother’s Day is coming around yet again. But it’s not really a day off because regardless of what my husband or kids do for me to ease my load for a few hours, I still have my own mother, grandmother, sister, aunts etc. to celebrate.

My brain hurts.

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What would life be like if I could just come home at the end of the day and not meet any needs outside of my own?

What would life be like if there were no special requests for less butter or more butter on the breakfast toast.

What if the socks I bought a few weeks ago could actually hold on to their mate for more then a few days.

What if?

Would I be lonely?

Would I be happier?

Would I be more at peace?

Would I?

Why did I think that this job of motherhood would be similar to the likes of June Cleaver, Claire Huxtable, or Carol Brady.

It’s not.

Unlike June, I have no pearls.

Unlike Claire, I’m rarely perfectly put together and in a state of unbelievable calm and control.

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Unlike Carol, there is no live-in Alice.

 

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I can hear you thinking as I type…

“Why in the world would this crazy girl tell the whole world that motherhood is eating her lunch?”

Because it’s true.

Because I’m not the only one whose brain hurts.

I’m not the only one whose kids are going in different directions and pulling her in all of them.

I’m not the only one who smiles then turns and rolls her eyes when Mother’s Day comes around.

I’m not the only one who is yearning for a little peace and quiet, worn out from making mealtime meaningful, or exasperated due to the never ending search for matching socks.

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And brain hurting and all. I keep going.

I’m not the only one.

I’m not the only who is balancing work and family and then whatever is left of my personal life.

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I’m not the only one who perseveres through the headache or the stuffy nose or the PMS attacks.

I’m not the only one who goes to yet another preschool graduation even though she doesn’t understand why there is so much hoopla for graduating from p-r-e-s-c-h-o-o-l.

I’m not the only who stays up late, gets up early, and learns how to smile when she really wants to yawn.

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I’m not the only one.

I’m not the only one who vacuums more than the chore schedule requires because my wonderfully messy kids can’t respect the fact that I JUST DID IT YESTERDAY.

I’m not the only one who vacuums without pearls either.

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I’m not the only one who knows she should talk to her children in a cool calm collected voice and finds herself ABSOLUTELY LOOSING IT.

And when I lose it, I do NOT look put together.

I’m not the only one who has kids going on in all different directions and every now and then I forget who is supposed to be where.

And there is no Alice to pick them up if I forget.

Ssssshhhh don’t tell anybody but I’m not SuperMom….

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I’m not the only one.

I’m not the only mom who despite the fact that her brain hurts, she

… keeps loving

… keeps giving

…keeps extending herself yet one more hour into the night.

I’m not the only one who’s children are her very heart walking around outside of her body, praying that they will do well by the essence of her soul which she has poured into them every chance she got.

That’s what moms do.

We love when it hurts.

We serve when we are tired.

We keep going when we want to pass out in exhaustion.

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And while there is another post to be written on another day about the need for balance, self-care, and healthy boundaries…

Today is the day I want to say that sometimes mothering is hard and that it’s OK to admit it.

I know that everyday I live, I am more and more aware and appreciative of the sacrifices my mother made for me.

She in many ways, but especially as a mom, is a kingdom woman in the flesh.

I know now I wasn’t easy.

In fact, I was hard… VERY hard.

And I know my mother must have suffered from doggone near an aneurism.

But she stuck with it.

She stuck with me.

Mother’s day is coming ya’ll.

And I want to stand up and say, motherhood is what it is.

It’s great. It’s hard. It’s worth something.

I want to stand up and applaud you WAY before Mother’s Day because today, when it’s NOT Mother’s Day, you need a standing ovation.

Today when there are no flowers or chocolates or gifts… you need to know that you matter and that another mother somewhere in the universe gets you and thinks you are AWESOME even if…

…your floor is dirty

…you have been wearing the same T-shirt for three days

…you are still working on home organization regardless of how many times you have been to the Container Store.

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You are awesome.

And even if you are tired, your brain feels a bit fuzzy, or you want to run screaming like a banshee out your front door and down the middle of your neighborhood street…

You are NORMAL.

Happy early Mother’s Day.

I’ll end this post with two things: a video that will make you smile and a great gift you can give to make another mama’s day.

As Mother’s Day approaches, I’ve decided to give a few moms in my life a reminder that I think they rock – even if they have days where they don’t necessarily feel like it. Is there someone in your life that could use a bit of an ovation or a little encouragement?  Maybe YOU need a reminder or maybe your mom, aunt, or grandmother would appreciate your recognition of their efforts on your behalf.

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10 Comments

  1. Kimberly Foulks April 17, 2014 at 8:22 am - Reply

    Absolutely beautiful! Thank you so much! I LOVE the post & video… I had to re post!

  2. L.Peterson April 17, 2014 at 10:48 am - Reply

    Chrystal this post and video were right on time! Literally brought tears to my eyes at work! I only have one child, a toddler boy, and I struggle with the insanity and juggling act called life but it’s good to know that I am not alone! Be Blessed!

    • Chrystal April 17, 2014 at 9:34 pm - Reply

      Toddlers for me were the hardest stage… the CUTEST… but the most energy stealing. Hang in there!

  3. Sharon G. April 17, 2014 at 11:26 am - Reply

    Chrystal thanks so much for once again penning such truths! The video brought a smile and tears. I am a mom and this resonates deeply. I so appreciate what you are doing in ministry. Yes i’m sure exhaustion seems never ending, but through Christ we can do all things and you are being a blessing as He is blessing you! God is great! He does great things through peeps like you 🙂 Keep doing what you’re doing…grab a nap whenever possible 😉

    #inspired

    • Chrystal April 17, 2014 at 9:34 pm - Reply

      A nap sounds non-negotiable at this point 🙂

  4. Jacquita April 18, 2014 at 7:17 am - Reply

    I smiled cause. “I’m not the only one “….whew. I have one graduating this May an another going to the 11th grade an they’re GIRLS…. so I’m not always smiling and in fact most times I am looking like this

    • Chrystal April 20, 2014 at 8:59 pm - Reply

      LOL! Yup!

  5. Mandy April 20, 2014 at 8:42 pm - Reply

    Great post. Great video. I have 2 kids…13mth boy & 7yr old girl. Both keep me RUNNING! Just when I do think I can sit for a second, here comes the pets (2 dogs, 1 cat). Nope…no rest for this Mama. Glad I am not alone. I am blessed to have some wonderful friends thanks to a great spiritual family and ladies like you who aren’t afraid to live life out loud. At least I get a little respite thanks to The Price is Right and NBC5 Weather Report. My little guy loves that right now. Thank you Drew Carey and David Finfrock! And my girl loves her Webkinz World so that’s her treat after homework is done. It’s the little things like that when I can sit and enjoy a little treat for me (ssh–don’t tell the kids. They beg for treats worse than the pets do.)

    • Chrystal April 20, 2014 at 9:00 pm - Reply

      Hahahaha! Little moments count!

  6. Cindy April 27, 2014 at 5:24 am - Reply

    Brought tears to my eyes…as I am up at 5:15 on a Sunday morning so that I can get some quiet time. Sunday are not a day off rest for Mom’s. To get teenagers and twins granddaughters, (because their mama is working midnights to ensure that she will be available to them when they go to school) out the door in time to serve at church is a challenge…all the time making sure everyone is feed, clean clothes, no fights, babysit the teenagers and their friends of the opposite sex to protect from temptations, and making sure that there is lunch available immediately when we get home (because it’s been a whole 3 1/2 hours since they last ate if we go to both services) or they will die….just ask them they will tell you…haha.

    Oh and the house has to remain clean because my small group is coming today. I must also guard the refrigerator so that the gremlins don’t get into the food I purchase for my small group. The madness!!! And as I am replying to this post my granddaughter wakes up earlier and says ” I want snuggle time!” My heart melts and now I need to even cut this short…not completing all of my thoughts. But duty calls…the sweetest part of my duty I might add. Then sweet Bella (5) says…”Grandma I can’t wait to go to church” Sweet music in my ears. All of this sacrifice is worth it! I will hang on to these little snapshots of “heaven on earth.” Lean into God for his strength and discernment. Ask for eyes and ears to see the snapshots of heaven on earth. Keep keeping on Jesus girls! You were made for such a time as this!!!

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