Podcast: Play in new window
What feelings stir up in your heart when you scroll through social media? Do you feel compelled to compare yourself to other people when you see them post about their beautiful homes, perfect relationships, or successful careers?
Well, let me free you up…
It is normal to find yourself comparing yourself to others. And if you dig a little deeper, comparison can even indicate something worth addressing in your own life. I want to share with you how to work through comparison and all of the feelings that come along with it.
Acknowledge the desires of your heart. The things that you find beautiful in other people’s lives can clue you into what you want out of your life. You might find that you don’t necessarily want what the other person has but rather the benefits that come with it. If you feel uneasy and insecure when a friend shares their new home, stop and sit with the feelings that come up. Are you envious of their home, or is this an indication that you are simply ready for a change in your living situation? If you find yourself wanting exactly what someone has, bring those desires before God. Do the desires of your heart line up with God’s Word? Ask yourself if you are willing to do what it takes to accomplish more in your life.
Address your limiting beliefs. Once you determine that you really want more for your life, comparison can cause you to doubt yourself. Feelings of inadequacy can rise to the surface when you see someone else fully living their life. Can I let you in on something? You miss out on seeing God at work in your life when you place limits on yourself. If negative self-talk is holding you back, begin to speak from a place of abundance. When you see other people being blessed, remember that you have the ability to create a life you love just like them. Who you are and what you have is already enough.
Adjust your level of gratitude. Comparison can show us areas where we lack gratitude in our lives. Are you discontent with who you are and what you have? Maybe it’s time to take note of all of your wins. Even if you’re not where you want to be in life, you still can find something worth celebrating. Take the picture. Make the memories. Mark the moment. Get intentional about participating in your life. Don’t allow the distraction of comparison to cause you to miss out on the beauty in your life. And if you feel that comparison is pulling you towards unhealthy feelings, take a break from social media. Spend time with yourself, your people, or the things you love doing so you can keep things in a healthy perspective.
Remember that people usually only show the highlights of their lives. You will never truly know the cost of someone else’s success.
There’s nothing wrong with using their wins as inspiration. Just don’t allow it to overshadow the power of God working in your life.
Highlights from Today’s Episode
- Acknowledge the desires of your heart.
- Address your limiting beliefs.
- Adjust your level of gratitude.
Related Resources
- Grab a copy of Nona Jones’ book Killing Comparison
- Listen to my conversation with Episode #162: Lies We Believe About Comparison with Nicki Koziarz
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- “If comparing yourself to others awakens desire within, use the desire as motivation to fuel the changes you want to see in your own life.” Chrystal Evans Hurst
- “The reason why we compare ourselves to others is because we are focused on other people’s wins. Instead, let the temptation to compare simply remind you to identify the wins you already have.” Chrystal Evans Hurst
- “When you know who you are, what you want, and what makes you happy, you won’t get distracted by what makes other people happy.” Chrystal Evans Hurst
- “When you compare yourself to other people, it’s because you’re giving them credit for having something that you don’t think you have. But what if you do?” Chrystal Evans Hurst
- “Remember that people usually only show the highlights of their lives. You will never truly know the cost of someone else’s success.” Chrystal Evans Hurst
Other Stuff to Check Out
- Be sure to also check out my books She’s Still There, Show Up For Your Life, The 28-Day Prayer Journey, and Kingdom Woman!
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- What feelings come up for you when you scroll through social media?
- How has negative self-talk gotten in the way of you achieving your goals?
- How do you celebrate the wins in your life?
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