Have you ever found yourself trying to be your most authentic self, only to find that you are over exhausted from tending to other people? When was the last time you took a minute to check-in with yourself, know who you really are, and discover what you really want? Do you ever ask yourself: Who am I? What do I like? Who do I want to be today?

It’s okay if your answers are forever changing or if you don’t know what they are this very moment. It’s normal to experience seasons of life where you aren’t quite sure if you know you.

I get the struggle, my friend. It’s easy for my “must-dos” to get in the way of my “want-tos.” Many of my in-real-life friends share the same struggle. It’s a womanhood thing, I think. Some days we feel the internal struggle the minute we get out of bed. We are moving so fast — doing all the things that need to be done — and before we know it, a whole day (or week or month or year) has passed without asking ourselves who we want to be or what we want to accomplish. Some of us spend much of our time seeking out the opinions of others regarding who we are or what they think we should do, and we never take the time to ask ourselves.

Maybe it’s because we don’t believe that we have the answer?

Psychotherapist, author, and relationship expert, Stacy Kaiser, joins me on the show this week to talk about how we can discover the answers that are deeply embedded in the hearts of adult women. Stacy and I talk about what it looks like to be “grown-up” enough to have happiness, peace, and joy. 

When we were younger, it was the responsibility of loving adults to take care of us. As a grown-up, we’ve got to continue to receive the loving care of those around us, while learning to take care of ourselves at the same time. This often means setting boundaries and attending to our needs without needing the approval of others. Growing up also means learning to tell the truth–being honest about what haunts us from the past that we can’t shake in the present. 

Listen, I’m a grown woman, but I’m still learning how to listen to myself, trust my God-given intuition, and respect the thoughts of others without letting their convictions determine my path. I’m learning the difference between healthy and unhealthy emotions, like shame, and how the internalization of those feelings impacts how free I am to live my life. Living whole means paying attention to what is going on inside of me, and my chat with Stacy clarified that truth for me. I hope our talk will do the same for you. As Stacy says, “Doing the work isn’t always easy. True healing is exhausting, but the freedom is worth it.”

After you listen, consider sharing this episode. It’ll be good for you and good for your friend, too.

Highlights from Today’s Episode:

  • Getting to know yourself
  • Working things out in your life
  • Using a counselor to better yourself
  • Finding peace in your everyday
  • How to be emotionally healthy

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Let’s Talk!

After you’ve listened to the podcast, I’d love to continue the conversation. Be sure and leave a comment!

  1. Many of us try to accommodate everyone’s individual needs and wants, often to our own detriment. In what ways have you been a “short-order cook” and tried to meet the needs of others in an unhealthy way?
  2. In what ways do you balance taking time for yourself and giving time to others?
  3. When was the last time you took a moment and checked-in with yourself?
  4. Where is there a need for boundaries in your life? What are the first steps you can take toward creating them?
  5. Do you have someone in your life that you feel comfortable talking to about everyday problems? Are they objective and willing to listen and help?
  6. Is there a source of shame in your life? Is it internal or external? How can you work on bringing that shame into the light and overcoming it?

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