#163 – Lies We Believe About Emotions with Shundria Riddick

#163 – Lies We Believe About Emotions with Shundria Riddick

Have you ever stopped to wonder why you feel the things that you do? Feelings. Feelings. Feelings. For some us that is the ultimate bad word. We simply don’t want to feel. Others are stuck in their feelings, struggling to function well every day.  Whether you consider yourself an emotional person or not, feelings are important. What do we need to understand about our emotions in order to be healthy? What lies do we believe about our emotions that keep us stuck?

Our emotions play a huge role in our lives — maybe even more than we give them credit for.  Licensed Professional Counselor and friend to the podcast, Shundria Riddick, shares how emotions can lead us in many directions and how we can take back the director’s chair. Unbridled emotions can help or harm us but the good news is we each have the power to understand the truth about our feelings and how they guide us without governing our behavior.  This joyful, in-depth and transparent episode provides insight and practical knowledge in understanding our feelings.

Why we feel certain emotions and how we expect others to address our feelings has the potential to be a complicated process, but it does not have to be an impossible one.  Shundria provides us with an easy-going, counselor-friend view of having better control of our emotional self. During this conversation, she covers why we feel what we feel and offers tips towards emotional well being.

Listen to this episode and learn more about Shundria in the resource links below!

Highlights from Today’s Episode:

  • Taking control of your emotions
  • Understanding why your feelings happen
  • Creating emotional well being
  • How to have healthy emotions as a single or married woman


Resources From Today’s Show 

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Let’s Talk!

After you’ve listened to the podcast, I’d love to continue the conversation. Be sure and leave a comment!

  1. Do you ever feel overwhelmed and stressed by your emotions? What tends to precede these times?
  2. Have you attempted to control someone else’s (friend, spouse, family member) emotions? How did that process end for you?
  3. Has someone else (friend, spouse, family member) ever attempted to control you with their emotions? How did that process end for you?
  4. Do you have a safe place (person) to express your honest emotions? Are you this space for others?

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  1. Candice Ross April 9, 2018 at 3:05 pm - Reply

    The answer is yes I have felt overwhelmed by several different emotions that have led to 3 different hospitalizations. As a recovering people pleaser I too have felt responsible for the happiness of others. I have given until there was nothing left with no expectation of receiving anything in return which set me up for relationships with “users” and those who tried to control me with there emotions. Honestly right now God is my safe place. Just this weekend my son hid my phone in order to utilize the hot spot but when I asked him if he had seen my phone he acted concerned and began to suggest places where i may have left it. But I knew where I had left it, and asked him to get up so I could look under him. I was upset he had lied then said he did not turn on the hot spot, which was another lie. I gave him a whooping for lying to me and he said “I never believe him.” That hurt because I had endured so much because I did believe him. He stormed off and I talked to him later, but honestly I felt so helpless dealing with a child who has suffered abuse on top of being tired and so many other things in my life. So I cried out to God expressing my total dependence and need for His help. Emotions are tough so thanks so much for addressing this.

  2. Terri Jones April 10, 2018 at 12:52 am - Reply

    Love the talk about ” lie we believe and the good advice. Made me really ask myself and my friend “Questions.” Great advice.

    • Chrystal Hurst April 10, 2018 at 5:52 pm - Reply

      So glad you tuned in!

  3. Melanie April 10, 2018 at 11:47 pm - Reply

    This podcast has to be in your “Top Ten.” Because it was so full of wisdom, I shared it on Facebook. You ask such great questions, Chrystal. I especially appreciate how you probe deeper with questions until you get to the nitty-gritty kernel or overriding principle of the answer—like how much sacrifice of oneself is required in relationships. I’m still chuckling over this comment of yours: “I mean…Jesus died!” You voiced just what many of us were thinking. I’m looking forward to Shundria’s next visit.

  4. Mae Auletta April 12, 2018 at 6:16 pm - Reply

    Do you ever feel overwhelmed and stressed by your emotions? What tends to precede these times?

    Yes at times I have felt overwhelmed in circumstances where I don’t have full control. For ex, I am unemployed right now because we chose to move to a new state to be with my grandson. We left very well paying jobs behind. I originally allowed myself to get overwhelmed because I thought I should have already had a job. But through prayer and reading/memorizing the WORD, I am now leaving it in the LORD’s hand to open whatever door HE wants to open. In the interim, I will continue searching for a job as well as what HE wants me to do while I wait.

  5. Anica Leitch April 12, 2018 at 11:45 pm - Reply

    This was so real for me. Setting boundaries whether with my time or my emotional bandwidth is something I’ve always struggled with. The reminder of the truths you both shared was so timely. Like both of you ladies 3 years ago even though I was only 27 and was ok on the “outside”, I wound up in the hospital so anemic that I needed multiple transfusions. It was the hardest and holiest time of my life because God was really teaching me about needing the blood of Jesus and that I needed to stop, slow down and say no more. It was about less of me and more of Jesus.

    Also, that part about the flowers cracked me up. i got married in October 2016 and have been trying to give my husband the “list” #sendhelp

  6. Wendy April 13, 2018 at 12:39 am - Reply

    So much good stuff in this podcast! Emotions…ugh. I’ve struggled all my life but the last couple years I have finally realized that the devil uses my emotions as a foothold. It’s helps to understand that, yet I still fall prey to it. Fall down and call in the Lord to help me back up. Over and over. I’m so thankful He never leaves us and walks before us. I’m also thankful for you ladies and this podcast. Such a blessing!

    • Chrystal Hurst April 24, 2018 at 10:32 pm - Reply

      Yup… my emotions have been a “thing” too. I’m grateful he doesn’t give up on me!

  7. Ginia April 17, 2018 at 6:33 pm - Reply

    I SO enjoyed this podcast! The message was right on time- confirming mamy things that God has been showing me about my past, my emotions, and my responsibilities- I wanted to blame everyone else- but God is teaching me my part (how I am to respond, etc.). I loved the part of examining our expectations and “filling ourselves up” as opposed to putting all pf that pressure on our spouse Thank you!

    • Chrystal Hurst April 24, 2018 at 10:32 pm - Reply

      It’s always to blame others isn’t it! I’m guilty of that too.

  8. Jillann Brusstar April 23, 2018 at 9:52 am - Reply

    I love listening to the podcasts multiple times. The 1st time I heard this one I was bawling as I thought I had just lost a friendship/mentor ad I was depending too much on her & others and not enough on God & myself. I am definitely an “emotional” person. I give 100% at everything. I truly did not realize how much pressure I put on others by depending too much. But that friend pointed it out and set boundaries and we are still friends now. I have been working more on trusting God and leaning on him first. So today as I listened and heard those “stinging” comments I could smile and feel better knowing I am growing.

    • Chrystal Hurst April 24, 2018 at 10:31 pm - Reply

      So glad you were able to listen to the podcat again a second time and see growth in yourself and your relationships!

  9. Carla May 9, 2018 at 5:27 pm - Reply

    I’m a podcast junkie and have been meaning to listen for a while but never quite got around to it. I’m glad I saw this on your blog today, even though it’s a month old. This conversation helped me. I’m now seeing emotions are often a choice spurred on by my beliefs (which are also a choice). I’m going to make an effort to take every thought, belief, and emotion captive. God let me hear this conversation today for a reason. Thanks for sharing ladies.

  10. Tiffany Hayes May 31, 2018 at 10:41 am - Reply

    So glad that the Lord directed me to this site, I totally enjoyed the podcast!!

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