How do you believe that you can still be the woman you intended to be after burying your child? Today I’m talking with author and speaker, Kay Warren. Kay Warren is the wife of Rick Warren, author of The Purpose Driven Life and Pastor of Saddleback Church in Lake Forest California.
In April of 2013, Rick and Kay Warren were forever changed when their youngest child, Matthew, committed suicide. For over a year they shed tears daily. Kay shares how devastating and traumatic it was to not only grieve the loss of her son but to also see him suffering with mental illness for the majority of his life.
At the tender age of 7, Matthew was diagnosed with depression and over the years he received other diagnosis such as OCD, personality disorder, ADHD, panic disorder and more. His entire life was consumed with illness, struggle, and suffering.
Through her experience, Kay shares with us some of the warning signs of mental illness, how she learned to work through her grief and shares what her journey to finding her “new self” has looked like.
In this heart gripping conversation, Kay challenges us to choose joy when happiness isn’t enough. Allowing herself to feel joy is a decision she has had to make and still has to make, over and over again. Kay has learned that choosing joy has not only helped her to honor who she is now, it is also honoring to her late son, Matthew.
Jerry Sittser, in his book A Grace Disguised, says, “Life will never be the same but it will be good again.” Regardless of who or what you’ve lost, even if you feel you’ve lost yourself, what Kay has shared will help you to believe that life can be good again. Joy is available but you must choose to receive it.
Highlight from Today’s Episode:
- Working through grief
- Warning signs of mental illness
- Grieving as a couple
- Grieving in leadership
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- “You may be completely devastated but you are not destroyed.” – Kay Warren
- “You can’t move on from grief but you can move through it.” – Kay Warren
- “Give yourself grace. When you can, you will.” – Kay Warren
- “You are going to heal and find your way again.” – Kay Warren
- “Life will never be the same but it will be good again.” – Jerry Sittser
- “Life is too short, too sweet and too temporary to hold people at arm’s distance over things that don’t matter.” – Kay Warren
- “It’s okay to enjoy the sun on your face today.” – Kay Warren
- “God is good and He can be trusted.” – Kay Warren
- “If you’re going to experience joy you must choose it.” – Kay Warren
==> Resources from Today’s Show
- Pre-Order She’s Still There
- Connect with Kay Warren on her website, Instagram, Twitter or Facebook.
- Sacred Privilege: Your Life and Ministry as Pastor’s Wife
- Choose Joy: Because Happiness is Not Enough by Kay Warren
- A Grace Disguised by Jerry L. Sittser
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